Is Your Foundation Beginning To Crack?

What role does God play in your life?

Have you placed Him at the head or is He lingering at the tail? Have you cracked the foundation by setting someone else in His place?

Have you cracked your relationships foundation by placing unfair expectations upon people you set in Gods place?  If this is the case, just know this.. He will remove that person.

No one can take the place of God in your life.

If you are in a relationship right now.. how do you see your loved one? Sometimes we fall in love with just knowing that there is a person that understands the way we think, how we are and how they choose to accept us, faults and all.  While that’s not a bad thing, we must be careful not to put that person so high upon a pedestal that we knock God off it! Unfortunately this is not uncommon and happens frequently. 

Most of us are drawn to strong people and we sometimes lean on them so heavily that without realizing it we have now placed a huge amount of pressure upon that person to constantly lift us up and be strong. In doing so, we feel they should never have a weakness. Now, we don’t openly feel that way because our carnal mind tells us not to, but in our subconscious we see that person as strong and may even see them as our “rock”.  The problem is that this is not humanly possible for we all have weaknesses and fall short.  If we were not weak, Jesus would not be made strong.  It is in Him that we live and move and have our being, not in other people. Other people can help us rise up to where God wants us to be but it’s unrealistic to expect that person to be anything more than human.

When you place unfair expectations, you not only set yourself up for disappointment but you hurt them deeply in the process and most of all.. you hurt God who desperately desires to be your counselor, friend and Lord over every part of your life.

It’s crucial that we see people as people and not place them higher than that in our lives.  If you set your mind on seeing them as never failing, you will be crushed when you do finally see their weaknesses and in turn they will be crushed because you now see them differently and when we see people differently we begin to treat them differently.

In addition to this, when someone sees your weaknesses it may cause them wonder how strong you can continue to be for them. This is another reason why God needs to be THE foundation of your relationship. God warns us to place Him as the head and not the tail for a reason. 

No one can do what God can do for us.

You can still have people that counsel you in your life, just remember that they are no different than you and while they are encouraging you, at some point they’re going to need you to be there for them as well.  Give respect and love back. Be careful not to make everything all about what you need but keep in mind that they are with you because they need you too!

Relationships should never be one-sided. That’s not a relationship. Communicate your feelings but be ready for the other person to communicate their feelings back to you. Don’t shelf your relationship with God. Don’t shelf your relationship with people. You have to have a balance in your life.

Communicating with actions that line up with your words are what make and keep a foundation standing strong. Communicating but reflecting outward actions that don’t line up with your words are what cause a foundation to crack and break apart.

So what role does God play? 

Are you placing unfair expectations on people to be in a role that only God can fill? 

How is your communication and reflective actions? 

What foundation have you built and more importantly, are you just going to stand in the cracks or are you ready to pour some concrete and work through the foundational problems?